hold me, wrap me up, unfold me..
August 2011
64 posts
“Women are taught from early childhood that their worth is proportional to their attractiveness. We feel compelled to pursue abstract notions of beauty, half realizing that such a pursuit is futile. When women reject this form of oppression, they face ridicule and contempt. Whether it’s women who refuse to wear makeup or to shave their legs, or to expose their bodies, society, both men and women, have trouble dealing with them.”
—Naheed Mustafa
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The Way I Am
Ingrid Michaelson
The Way I Am- Ingrid Michaelson
feeling
1. my mother’s fingers searching her cast-hardened scalp-
mask of hair for those metal defacers who creep though
careful, careful- one by one she blindly pats down
her criminal skull for the last of those weapons to remove-
2. the slug’s feeling eyes changing shape,
those short-leashed kites checking the air in front
of him for a reason to turn back
stretching out of his slick invertebrate mind
when I point out a small finger: stop.
they retreat so fast
as pulling the plug on the air mattress
and all of that oxygen goes woosh
back into the room-
he turns around
3. the hands that did not go back.
they were not blind
4. the sound you can see and imagine:
the crowd is a field and each person
is a stalk of long grass
the furry kind by a pond
moving up and down in time like
machinery in a factory.
chins lowered: they pound.
heads back quickly: they retract.
Daily Murf: What does 'virgin' even mean? →
dailymurf.tumblr.com
Is it someone who hasn’t had sex?
Well alright- but what is sex, then?
Is it a man’s penis inside a woman’s vagina?
Well where does that leave people who’s first experience of a penis inside their vagina was rape?
Are they no longer virgins?
When ‘virginity’ was first thought of they weren’t.
This is the 21st century; we no longer equate rape with sex!
Alright then, so sex= consensual penis in vagina action.
But wait, what about those queer people who may never have penis in vagina action but may have lots and lots of other kinds of sexual activity; are they all virgins too, have they never had sex?
And where does that leave the trans people who may have piv sex, but it may be two women, two men or any variation of nonbinaries doing it- is virginity being lost here or not? Even though it’s queer sex it does involve a penis and a vagina; do they get to be virgins still?
Well, queer people are people and our sex is still sex, folks. This is the 21st century; we’ll have no heterosexism or cissexism here!
Well now the lines are truly blurred. If a bisexual man has piv sex is he only half a virgin? After all he’s only rubbed one set of genitalia up against another set; what about the ‘opposite’ set? Does he have to do that too in order to lose his virginity?
This is the 21st century. Virginity as a concept loses all meaning in discussions that aren’t rife with sexism, heterosexism and cissexism.
It’s broken and it’s dangerous. Lets bin it, shall we?
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“The undetected rapists overwhelmingly use minimal or no force, rely mostly on alcohol and rape their acquaintances. They create situations where the culture will protect them by making excuses for them and questioning or denying their victims. Incarcerated rapists, I think, are just the ones who use the tactics that society is more willing to recognize as rape and less willing to make excuses for.”
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Atomic
Atomic- Blondie
